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How to Maintain a Long Distance Relationship

‘Distance’ is the one-word reason that countless couples have ended their relationships. While being in a long distance relationship can sure be tough, it does not have to take a toll on both of you. A long distance relationship can be identified by the distance which separates the couple. Maintaining a long distance relationship is important to overcome the breaking relationship so it will not break. Nowadays, there are so many couples are living in different cities because they study at different university, they got a new workplace, high school sweethearts that move off to college, or overseas military deployments. The three major steps involved in maintaining a long distance relationship are make commitment, trust each other, and keep communication.

Make commitment is the first step to maintain a long distance relationship. That creates a common goal for you to work towards, developing a strong relationship whether you are together or apart. For example, agree to disagree, accept each other as you are, and practice trust and honestly. Then, you should not be possessive person. Do not be jealous when your love is hanging out with his/her friends. Then, be transparent in everything you do and inform your partner on each and every detail of what's going on. This action will strengthen your trust in each other. Honesty is the best policy, and it plays a very important role in a long distance relationship. Next, look toward to the future. It is one of the best ways to survive a long distance relationship. For example, start a countdown for the next time that you two will see each other.

The second step is trust each other. It is an important thing to do. Trust is most important to build the foundation of a stable relationship. There should be a level of commitment between the couple even before considering a long distance relationship. You should to be an openness person. Say what you feel, share, and let him/ her know about you. Then, you should have positive thinking on your mind. When your love does not contact you or he/ she does not reply your message, do not have negative thinking. Maybe, he/ she is very busy and believe that he/ she will spare their time for you. Next, tell your love about what was happened to you on that day. You can also share about your job or activities that you have done. Share about you experiences. It will be interesting when you have a topic to be discussed. The idea is to share experiences while you are apart just as you would if you were together.

By keeping communication, you can keep your love relationship. This ensures that you stay connected and involved in each others’ lives. You definitely need to brush up on your communication skills because you will have only words to connect you. Call your love when you have spare time. Although you are very busy with your job or your activities make sure that you have time for him/ her. Not just once, twice or three times a day but as much as you can manage. Then, make a simple conversation to build a good condition. However, make sure the conversation is meaningful and special. Continuous and constant conversation over the phone or over the internet is very essential. For example, ask him/ her condition to show your attention. Do not forget to say the magic words “I love you” all the time. It can show that you really love him/ her. For a person you love, it is a sweet sound to hear.

Maintaining a long distance relationship is not easy. Whether you have always lived far away from your partner, have been together for years and a new situation means a new long distance relationship or it is a young relationship to begin with, long distance is never easy. The important things to remember are commitment, integrity, and communication. They help a relationship grow and can only happen if there is no game playing and manipulation. A man and woman, who are together because they want to be and not because they have to be, share a solid bond.

How to handle stress of abounden task?

In this semester, I take 24 credits. The lecture gives many tasks to do and the task should be collected on the day that it had been determined. Usually, in a week I can submite more than two tasks. Sometimes, I get stress and confuse to handle my abounden task. But, I have some tips to solve it. Here are:

• We make a schedule based on our activities

When we do our homework, when we do other activities

• Divide our time effectively

Make sure that all of our activities can be done well

• Be on time

Don't postpone to do our task. If we can do it at that, why not?

• Sleep enough

It is important to our health. If we don't have good healthy, we can't do our activities maximal.

• Don't force yourself

When you have a lot of task, don't try to do it on one day but do it one by one

• You need a refreshing

We can do it by going out with our family/ our friends or listening to music.